The Message You Were Born to Speak.

The Message You Were Born to Speak.

Seven billion people! Yes! This is the population of the whole world.

Image yourself standing in front of the whole world. And you have been given a chance to speak. What will you speak about? How will you speak?

What will you tell seven billion people to do? What will you tell them not to do? I guess this will be the message you were born to speak.

We all have a message. A message we were born to speak. Yes! You! Most of us are not pros at speaking, but deep down in our hearts we all have a voice wanting to shout out a message. A message we want to go out there. It can be a message of hope or profound wisdom or deep knowledge that you have or even a story.

We express this message by the things we do or choose not to do. This message can be expressed in our work, our words, our actions and our thoughts.

Ask yourself ‘What is the message I was born to speak?’ And when you find it, do not stop speaking.

Dear brothers and sisters, you are not meant to be silent. You have a word, a message you were born to speak, to speak with your voice, to speak with your gifts and talents. You all have treasure in you. Awesome treasures to display to the world. This is the message people read through your life.

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In Search of the Parental Blessing

Parents Blessing

CHILDREN, OBEY your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother–this is the first commandment with a promise–[Exod. 20:12.] That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.

Ephesians 6:1-3 AMP

Our life journeys are unique, and we can all agree that we are not 100% in control of our lives. All of us found ourselves in our families and with the parents that we have. As a baby you cannot have a say about who your parents will be or how you will be born. It still remains a fact that each one of us had one father and one mother. These are the parents we are supposed to honor.

What does it mean to honor your father and mother? It is to be respectful in word, in deeds and in attitude. It is to esteem their position. To honor is to ‘to revere, to respect, to prize, and to value’. Honor is does not mean to agree but it is to give respect not only for merit but also for rank.

God values honoring parents enough to include it in the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:12) and again in the New Testament (Ephesians 6:1-3). Surprisingly ‘honour thy father and thy mother’ is the only command in Scripture that promises the blessing of long life as a reward. The Bible also promises a curse to those who disobey the commandment.

To honor parents who are still alive makes sense, but we are supposed to honor our parents even if they are deceased. Honoring good parents is easy, but honoring bad parents is difficult. The secret is that honoring your parents is not agreeing with them. It is to respect their position. There is a blessing in it, a blessing that you can get and change the direction of your life. Do you possess this blessing? Do you need this blessing?

Parental Figures

Now let’s hold on as we bring another dimension to parenting. What if you did not have your own parent, and you had parental a figure? I believe that God has ordained that parental figure to be your parent. So your parental blessing did not end with your parents. It is still there.

The main challenge is when your parental figure is not a perfect person. However the words of your parental figure can either bring you a blessing or curse. To add on to that your words towards them can either bring you a blessing or curse. Whichever way you will be affected. Why? Because they started on this journey long time ago when you were still a baby. They have been sowing a lot in you. No one can deny it. It is now your turn to reciprocate.

It may sound unfair, but if you look closely in the eyes of God, it is an opportunity. An opportunity for you to be blessed. If you play your part, you will be blessed whether the parental figure is good or bad. Focus on your side of the deal. Maximize your side of the deal, and you will reap accordingly.

You will gain nothing from struggling with your parents. You will always lose because they had a head start on you. They started this before your birth. You are too late.

‘Ceremonial’ Parents

‘Ceremonial’ Parents are parents used on a formal occasion or at a ceremony. Some of them will not take any responsibility to raise the child. Beware of opportunistic ceremonial parents who come out at the last minute. They disappeared from your life until they hear that you are at the university. They come out just in time to collect lobola.  First, they tell you how the person who raised you is bad or has been bad to your real parents (if they are deceased). They arm you with strife with the aim of winning the potential success that you now possess. If you look closely, you will see that they were not there when you needed them most. They never stood with you when you were sick or hungry. They never changed your nappy or shed a tear for you and with you.

So what do we do opportunistic ceremonial parents? Should we get rid of them? The key word here is ceremonial. However they are not the real deal. They did not get dirty raising you. Put them in the right position. Give them a ceremonial position, but do not neglect those who really got dirty sacrificing for you.

How to Get the Parental Blessing

If a person paid the cost of raising you, that person has a parental stake on you. That person deserves to be treated as if he or she is your own parent. You have an opportunity to unlock a blessing in your life.

If there is a person who took you as his or her child, changed your nappies daily, carried you on her back each day, gave you the mother’s (or father’s ) love, gave you the mother (or father) you did not have and gave you the mother’s (or father’s ) blessing, that person has your parental blessing. Mistreating, taking for granted and disrespecting such persons violates the Devine order and shuts doors in your life, stopping the blessing flow.

To realign things, you should reciprocate that love by honoring them as your parents. This is the key to complete your parental blessing circle. Take them as your real parents. If you do this, you will unlock a blessing that has been missing in your life. Find ways to do it. If you touch their heart, you touch your real parents heart. It will release that blessing. Remember this is the only parent you ever experienced.

Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.

Exodus 20:12 AMP

Think carefully about these words. If they resonate with your heart, take the advice

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Are you Playing the Blame Game?


Have you noticed that people everywhere are blaming everything and everyone for whatever is wrong in their lives? They point at their husbands or wife, their employer, the government, the community, the economy, the ruling party, the opposition, the banks etc. ‘Someone’s at fault for this mess I’m in and it’s definitely not me,’ they say.

After a year, two years or ten years, they will still be blaming someone except themselves. They spend all their time and energy blaming. They sit in groups criticizing politicians and public figures, spending five to six hours of their weekend time pointing out how bad things are.

Instead of spending all this time discussing politics and all these problems, why don’t you spend that time talking about how you can improve yourselves? Much better why don’t you spend that time improving yourself? If you cannot find something productive to do with that time, you can spend that time with your wife, you husband or your children having fun.

People who always find someone or something to blame for their failure always end up on the losing side. But responsible people who actively take charge and ownership of their lives and the lives of others become winners. The blame game is a loser’s game. Don’t get into it. Which game are you playing?

Make a bold decision today to take charge and be a solution oriented person. Create a plan to make things around you better. Drive out negativity. Focus on making your dream a living reality. Set your goals and take immediate action. Attend the course if necessary and start progressing now. Otherwise you will find yourself playing the blaming game, a game you will never win.

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The Top Common Personal Finance Myths


A myth is a widely held but false belief or idea. Unfortunately, one of the factors that are preventing many people from becoming financially successful is a false belief about personal finance. In fact, there are common financial myths that can negatively impact your wealth accumulation and prevents you from living your dream. Here are The Top Common Personal Finance Myths that might be holding you back financially;

  1. People with low income cannot save more than people who earns more. Actually some people with low incomes are so disciple such that they can save more than those with huge incomes, who have to maintain their high lifestyles.
  2. Personal financial advice is for people struggling financially. This is not necessarily true, personal financial advice is for anyone who wants to improve his or her financial management, whether one is in deep debt or not.
  3. Hard work makes you rich. ‘If getting up early makes people rich, then milk men and newspaper men would be very rich.’
  4. If you earn less, there is no need to budget. ‘Saving is hard for me because my income is very small.’
  5. One day I will encounter a big financial break that will make me a millionaire.
  6. ‘If I earn more, I will be happier.’ Money is simply an amplifier.
  7. ‘If I get financial aid I will be able to rise myself to riches.’
  8. ‘I will clear all my debt when I get the pay increase.’
  9. You save money by buying cheap or ‘on sale’ items.
  10. Buying ‘property’ is always the best investment.
  11. The higher your income the wealthier you are.
  12. Those with a lot of material wealth are rich.
  13. Two (or more) incomes are better than one.
  14. Signing as surety is no big deal.
  15. Frugality will make you rich.
  16. Rich people are evil.

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What Is Stopping You From Being Great?


Greatness is a choice. Just do it!

Yes, what is it that is stopping you from being great? What is stopping you from being that person you dream of?

The truth is that;

  • Your past cannot stop you from being great.
  • Your spouse cannot stop you from being great.
  • Your friends can not stop you from being great.
  • You personality cannot stop you from being great.
  • Having no money cannot stop you from being great.
  • Your government can not stop you from being great.
  • You race or gender cannot stop you from being great.
  • Being born in poverty can’t stop you from being great.
  • The country you live in can’t stop you from being great.
  • Being too young or too old can’t stop you from being great.
  • Being born with physical disabilities can’t stop you from being great.
  • Not having an adequate education cannot stop you from being great.
  • Being raised by alcoholic or abusive parents can’t stop you from being great.
  • Being an orphan or being raised in foster homes can’t stop you from being great.
  • Because you were told constantly, “you’re no good,” can’t stop you from being great.

Each of us has a vision of what success is but why don’t we then go for it? I think there is only one thing that can prevent you from stepping into your greatness; that is you. It is what you believe. Your belief is seen by your action or lack of action.

You might be saying ‘I don’t care what you think.’ Yes you are right. What I think does not matter. What really matters is ‘what you think!’

“Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them.” ― William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night

Here are some of your common thoughts;

  • This isn’t on my list.
  • I’m too busy right now.
  • I don’t want learn new things.
  • My boss won’t let me do that.
  • I’m afraid of moving too forward
  • I’m not the person you think I am
  • The economy is bad at the moment.
  • I don’t trust other people’s advice.
  • I believe that I don’t have enough time.
  • I don’t have the resources you think I do.
  • I believe that I don’t have enough money.
  • I am scared to see the truth about my selves.
  • I feel guilty if we have a better life than others.
  • It’s not possible. That’s a pipe dream. Don’t bother.
  • I’m not the kind of person that does things like this
  • I don’t feel I deserve a better life. This is all I deserve.
  • I don’t want to open the door to a long-term commitment.
  • It’s too hard. I don’t want to pay the price, do the work and wait that long.
  • I can’t figure out how to do it, or where to start. I have to know how first.

To be honest the conditions for being great have never been right and will never be right. You just have to step in, today!

Now I ask again ‘what is stopping you from being great?’

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Do You Know All My Books?

My Books

If you do not know by now, here is it. I have published three fantastic books. These are small or medium sized easy to read books that are changing people’s lives every day.

The Blessing ScripturesIt’s time to slay your giants! It is time for your victory!

Do you struggle with where to start from when trying to read the Bible? Do you have to fight to maintain a constant devotional life? This book will make it easy because as you read it you will be reading verses that benefits you immediately. The collection of scriptures in this book relates to your personal life. Meditate daily on these scriptures that speak to you directly in The Blessing Scriptures, and experience the difference.

Are you looking for a collection of scriptures that will fire up your life like a rocket? You need a very positive mind to realize that big dream of yours. Few encouraging scriptures a day from The Blessing Scriptures will help you maintain a positive mind throughout the day. They will energize you to get out of bed to fulfill your calling with a purpose.

Are you going through a rough time, facing mountain sized challenges? This collection of scriptures will speak to your situation, turning your trails around and give you a new outlook to your future. Speak these scriptures daily as you pray.

The Blessing Scriptures will change your devotional life! Every scripture in the book has a direct meaning to your everyday personal life. Every scripture is specifically intended to encourage and restore hope and faith to face any daring circumstance. This is the book you ought to start and end your day with!

As you read The Blessing Scriptures you will feel faith rising inside you. This is how this book will help you face and conquer your giants.

The Blessing Scriptures, redefining spirituality!

Putting your marriage relationship where it belongs! This is what this book is about!

Little Tough Tips on MarriageMarriage is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. Every couple can have a fun and enjoyable marriage and they can have this if they are brave enough to pursue the Little Tough Tips on Marriage.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment that is made without an option to turn back. It is like a garden that needs constant watering and great care. If you really love your spouse then, your love is worth fighting for. This little book will revolutionize your approach to your marriage relationship. It will prepare you to navigate traps that can block the smooth flow of marriage, by reorienting your heart and attitude. The following tips covered in this book will help you improve your relationship with your spouse and will move your spouse from being an enemy to being your ally.

The Discipleship SeriesDo you want to enjoy your Christian life? If ‘yes,’ this is the book!

The Discipleship Series is a series of teachings which are a guideline for personal devotion, home group and Bible study groups.

It will urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Weak faith in the teacher cannot stir stronger faith in the student. Use this book as you study the Bible.

And a message that we all should know, and should begin to live is, “Go yee therefore and make disciples of all nations.” Your family, church or community can reject you because of your past, but God loves you regardless of what you can do or cannot do. Get ready to get stirred in a way no book has ever done.

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What Are Your Top Time Wasters?

Wasting time

It is often said that time is money. So wasting time is wasting potential money. Over 350 responses on Quora responded to the question ‘What is truly a waste of your personal time?’ The answers were very interesting.

Here are the top 18 things that people waste their time on;

  1. Living In Past And Regretting

This is thinking too much about the past and about things that are beyond your control. If you often spend time reflecting on mistakes you have made, things you wish you had/hadn’t said, and wondering how differently things would’ve turned out if you had taken a different course of action. Recollecting past deeds and how they are going to affect you in your coming days, although you can’t change it. This can be blaming yourself for the loss of a loved one. It’s not healthy at all, and it prevents you from living in the present, perpetuating a vicious cycle of not appreciating what you have and then wishing you had done better. Allowing the past to linger is waste of time. The past has had its presence, now it’s gone. Spending time reliving the past takes part of your present you and divides you. Although, reliving good memories will release a pleasant feeling in you, allowing that part of you to relive toxic memories will poison you exponentially with the time factor.

  1. Social Media

There are many social media apps these days, Facebook, WhatsApp, Snapchat, Messenger and other similar chatting apps. Many people keep surfing on the internet without a clear objective, just to pass time. Some spend a lot of time chatting with virtual friends, whom they don’t know and there is not possibility of ever meeting him/her in future. Some keep changing profile picture and status countlessly on social networking sites.

  1. Comparing Your Life With Others

Going through posts of others on Facebook and then thinking and mourning that your life is such a waste while it’s not at all true. This can be caring about what others might be thinking about you. Spending your time to impress others, thinking what others think about you is a waste of time. You do not have to prove how macho or strong or athletic or handsome or pretty you are.

  1. Worrying About The Present And Future

You can’t keep thinking and stressing about the future. It truly is amazing how much time can be wasted over something so uncertain or living in fear of something and not trying to overcome it. 

  1. Watching TV

Watching TV all day seems like a waste of time when you could be using your time to do something better like going out for a walk or spending time with friends or family. Perhaps try investing that time in achieving your dream.

  1. Worrying

“Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” Some people are worriers. They worry about everything and everyone in the name of being responsible. They carry other people’s burdens as if they are paid for it.

  1. Procrastination

Not doing what you want to do. They say procrastination is the language of the poor. It does not get things done and should be your number one enemy. Silently it takes your dream away from you.

  1. Gossiping

Gossiping seems to feed the emotions but does not get anything does. You cannot advance your life by gossiping. It simply discussing about people rather than ideas and engaging into small talks. Hating someone and spending time to think evil about him/her, conspire against him/her (which in most cases is probably is not going to be enacted) and back biting. Gossiping about other people and getting stressed over stupid things is indeed a waste of time.

  1. Doing Something You Hate

It was noticed that staying in a job you hate and working on a dead end job was the ninth waste of time. Why do you do a job you don’t like? Perhaps you have no choice but remember time is moving. If a job you like and stay on it. Things will not happen on their own.

  1. Complaining Excessively

While expressing displeasure over something may sometimes be good to let things out of your system, complaining incessantly without taking any action or coming up with ways to improve the situation often yields nothing but more frustration. Are you an epic complainer? Be careful otherwise you will complain yourself into poverty.

Other Serious Time Wasters

  • Addictive behaviours; Watching porn, smoking and drinking to excess.
  • Constant checking your inbox throughout the day for new emails. Scrolling through the endless Facebook feed hoping to find something interesting.
  • People pleaser by letting other views affecting you. Trying to please people to their liking
  • Spending time with the wrong people or people who bring you down, Just to look cool or be popular.
  • Pining for an ex-lover. Waiting for an ex to come back to you. Get over it and move on.
  • Traffic Jams takes a lot of our time. In some countries you can easily spend at least two hours daily in the traffic jams
  • Video game; hooked up to your gaming machine when there is a lot to play outside.
  • Engaging in endless political discussions and arguments.

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Interview: Simba Nyamadzawo – A Motivational Speaker Dedicated To Serve His Generation

Simba Nyamadzawo Today at It’s My Footprint (IMFP) we caught up with Simba Nyamadzawo (SN) a well-known Motivational Speaker, Author of Faithpreneurship and a leadership consultant who says in his own words, ”I want to spend my lifetime inspiring others, building leaders and connecting great people together. I want to serve my generation.”

(IMFP) Welcome Simba Nyamadzawo and thank you for spending time with us at It’s My Footprint.

(SN) Thank you for having me.

(IMFP) Start by giving our followers a brief background of yourself, your experience and how you rose to your current position.

(SN) I grew up in Domboshava, a village characterised by granite hills situated about 30km North of Harare. My highest academic qualification is ”O” level I did not get the opportunity to go to university. After I failed A’ level my sister Florence gave me a copy of How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. I liked the book and the author and started to develop an interest in books to do with inspiration and personal development. To date I have read over 200 books. I began to share with others the inspiration and wisdom through seminars, presentations to universities and other civic organisations such as JCI, Rotary and Toastmasters magazine. I have done seminars with some of the foremost thought-leaders and speakers such as Rabison Shumba, Jonah Mungoshi, Tsitsi Mutendi, Kudzai Mubaiwa, Munyaradzi Gwatidzo, Dr Patson Dzamara, Arthur Marara, Tinashe Nyaruwanga, Phillip Chichoni, Nicholas Bhero, Chris Mugaga and Walter Chimene. My articles have been featured in several magazines and articles and I am regular guest on TV and radio.

To compliment my skills I also enrolled for training with a number of organisations such as EMPRETEC, Toastmasters International and others. I now consult for various companies and organisations on leadership and strategy.

(IMFP) Simba, what are you busy with now in terms of research work?

(SN) I am currently working on the 2016 edition of 30 under 30 emerging Zimbabwean leaders. Each and every year my organisation profiles some of the inspirational and influential leaders who are 30 years or below. We discovered that we have so many unsung heroic leaders.

We agree with John Quincy Adams when he said “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” As an organization we have decided to acknowledge, honor and celebrate some of the young game changers, thought-leaders, opinion shapers, movers and shakers. We hope the list will challenge and inspire other young people to emulate and learn one or two from the listed contemporaries.”

For a full list of 2015 honorees see the link

(IMFP) What were some of the biggest challenges you have faced to date? How did you overcome them?

(SN) Sometimes I solicit consultancy work in certain companies only to find out that the decision makers in those companies have an academic bias and the first thing they ask are my academic transcripts and CV. In such instance I have to rely on my profile and reference of the work I have done. I am glad to say that I am working on an assignment I was given by one of the largest churches in Zimbabwe after they were convinced with my profile.

(IMFP) Simba, did you have any life-changing experiences that put you on the path that led you to, what you’re doing today?

(SN) I grew up as a shy person with stage fright largely because I am an introvert. I encourage people to turn their lemon into lemonade. In my book FAITHPRENEURSHIP I share about the day that changed my life.

It was in 2003 we went for National Scholars Chess Tournament, they were held in Bulawayo at Milton High School an ancient Government School few minutes away drive from the city centre. I was representing Mashonaland West Province. After the tournament we returned to our school, Chinhoyi High School. The Headmaster wanted me to announce the results at assembly in front of all students and teachers. It was short notice. I was not prepared. I could not refuse or negotiate with him because he was a hard man a disciplinarian for that matter. I had no option except to comply. It took me up to eternity to say those few words to make matters worse I am a stammerer. I became the laughing stock of everyone.

That is the day I decided to turn my weakness into strength, my lemon into lemonade. I decided to take charge. I then joined Public Speaking and Debate. I remember when I went there first time the lady who was in charge thought that I was joking or I was after the pretty girls. When I told her I mean business she tried to discourage me saying you are not cut out for public speaking and debate. I pleaded with her to give me a chance.

That is the day which ushered me into a world of possibilities. I am now receiving speaking engagements from business and church organizations. I go around giving inspiration, faith and hope to people. I am no longer afraid to stand in front of people. If I can stand in front of one person I can stand in front of 1 million people. I am glad I failed forward.

(IMFP) I understand you have written books, let’s go into some work you have done.

(SN) My flagship book is FAITHPRENEURSHIP. It carries a message of inspiration and wisdom for leaders. I gravitate more to leadership because I believe the greatest need in our generation is leadership. We need leaders who are solution bearers, peace makers and architects of the future.

The book comes with a foreword from my spiritual father Apostle Tavonga Vutabwashe and has been endorsed by high profile authors and speakers such as Dr Shingi Munyeza, Rabison Shumba, Advocate Charles Magaiza and many more.

What makes the book unique is its relevance. The book has a dual audience, the church and the marketplace. It is a Christo-centric book integrated with universally accepted principles of success. That is the reason why people from all walks of life are buying it; Apostles, millionaires, academics, entrepreneurs, doctors and CEOs of companies which are listed on Stock Exchange. It’s a book with a message for everyone

(IMFP) Did you have any key mentors or people who propelled to who you are, what you believe in and what you are committed to in your work and life? Share with our followers about it.

(SN) I am privileged to have access and receive mentorship from Apostle Tavonga Vutabwashe and Rabison Shumba. I have benefited a lot from their wisdom and assistance. I also look up to other great people like Dr Shingi Munyeza, Tsitsi Masiyiwa, Dr John C. Maxwell and Dr Mike Murdock. I also draw inspiration from the works of the late Mother Teresa and Dr Myles Munroe.

(IMFP) Simba, what skills do you consider crucial for success for an upcoming motivational speaker, and business man?

(SN) I encourage emerging Motivational Speakers to join an organisation like Toastmasters International. They will learn about effective communication and leadership and also get to meet and associate with seasoned speakers.

(IMFP) When you think of the future of the kind of work you’ve talked about here, what gives you a sense of hope for your future?

(SN) I carry a message of inspiration and wisdom. As far as I am concerned wisdom is the principal thing we can never underestimate the value of wisdom in future.

(IMFP) Let’s talk about Simba the man. Give us a bit of your social and family life. 

Simba Nyamadzawo (SN) I am a last born in a family of five. Ndiri gotwe raMai Wadzanai. I enjoy playing chess. Outside work I also make a deliberate effort to spend time with people who are positive and enthusiastic. I draw energy from reading books.

(IMFP) Thank you Simba for taking time off your demanding schedule. We appreciate and value your inspiring story.

(SN) You are welcome. The pleasure is mine as well.

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Should You Spouse Really Come First?

Should You Spouse Really Come First?

This is Part Three of the Fifth and Final Episode of the Marriage Journals and it is continued from The Marriage Covenant.

It is easy to get entangled with many things that demand our attention and forget our priorities. It is easy to follow our passions and things that excite us. After all they make us happy. It’s not easy to ignore them. At time we get twisted teaching that are given out with another agenda. In this section we look at how our priorities in marriage should be structured. This is how it should be, God first, your spouse second, your children third, your parents fourth, and others including other people, work, church etc fifth. Let look at this further.

God has the supreme priority. He gets the first share of your time, relationship and income (tithe). You are to obey Him always and walk with Him daily. After all you belong to him. You do not belong to your boss, your church or your pastor. This share is not ministry. It is about walking with God and developing a relationship with Him.

Your spouse gets the second priority. He or she gets the second share of your time, relationship and income in fact he or she owns half of your possessions. You have to serve him or her first before your children, parents, siblings or pastor. Actually, before God you and your spouse are one person.

Your children are in third position after your husband or wife. Your children have one father and one mother by divine appointment, so be there for them. Serve your children before everyone else. Spend quality time with them, parent them and do not delegate your parenting responsibility to television shows or the maid. Do not neglect them.

At fourth position are your parents. Regardless of circumstance we ought to respect them. Ephesian 6:2-3 [AMP] says, ‘Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother–this is the first commandment with a promise. That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.’ Note that your parents include your parents’ in-law. Treat them as you would treat your own parents because they are [Deut 5:16].

On fifth position is everyone else; siblings, cousins, aunts, church mates, colleagues, friends, etc. When one is single their priorities are different. God remains number one, parents are number two and siblings and everyone else are number three. However when one marries and has children, parents move down from number two to number four, and siblings move down from number three to number five. A lack of understanding of the changes in priorities when one marries and has children can result in parents and siblings competing for attention with your spouse and children, causing animosity. Instead of your siblings interfering with your spouse and children, they must focus on their own spouses and children. Their priorities have also changed.

The same priorities apply during prayer. When praying, you pray for your spouse first before anything else, then your children, then your parents and then everyone else. Your spouse, children and parents must receive more prayers than anything else. When blessing, you bless your spouse first, then your children and then your parents, in that order, before anyone else [Ephesians 5:20-33].

Before you buy your pastor a gift, buy something for your spouse, your children and your parents first. This is what brings a ‘sustainable’ blessing, a blessing that will last, a blessing that will not open a door for strife. If you put the church before your family, you may get blessed, only to lose it because of the curse that comes from your mixed priorities. The church belongs to God, not to you. The pastor works for God, not for you. On the other hand your family belongs to you. It is your primary responsibility by divine appointment. God takes care of his business, the church, and you should take care of yours, your family. When you take care of your family, God will bless you enough to be able take part in fulfilling Gods’ mandate in the church. The Bible refers to the church as God’s bride. You have your own spouse. God takes care of His, you should take care of yours.

Do not put the cart before the horse! ‘The blessing begins at home!’ This is a sustainable blessing, a blessing that makes rich and does not add sorry. It is passed from generation to generation. As you gather at church the combined blessing can do much more bigger things because there is combined faith and blessing [Matthew 18:19] but ‘Prayer begins at home. God put Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden as their home [Gen2:8]. It was a blessed home. There was no curse in Eden. This shows that our homes should be blessed. The primary place for experiencing God’s blessing is none other than our homes. We safe guard this by putting our marital priorities in divine order.

Again do not put your career or work before your spouse or family. It also brings a curse. If you neglect your spouse and prioritize your career you risk losing the extra money you get quicker than you get it. The promotion you get can easily turn into misery and a bondage.

God’s principal interest is to fellowship with you in prayer, not to meet your daily list of demands that you call your prayer list. Free will offering, gifts, church building funds etc comes later. He wants your heart.

Your second interest in life is your spouse’s interests; not your boss’s; friends or your work. Your spouse left everything for you. You! Not for your money or work. They gave up their identity for you. Hence you better be there for them. If you find yourself spending more time at work than with them, disaster will surely follow. Listen to the needs of your spouse, and meet those needs. Who will meet them if you do not? If the demand seems too big, then pray together about it. God normally intervenes. “If you and your spouse shall agree in prayer about anything, it will be granted!” [Matt 18:19]. The best team or agreement that can break any bondage or curse and cause overflow is a married couples’ prayer of agreement. That’s why the devil fights marriage.

Surprisingly you will find that each time you sacrifice these demands for your spouse or family, God blesses you. Each time you turn down some activity because of family demands, God will always compensate you.

You have two choices, either to go out sacrificing your spouse and family for your job or sport, working and toiling like an elephant but eating like an ant. Or you can choose your family and allow the blessing of God to work for you. Guys, obedience is better than sacrifice, because obedience is followed by the blessing. On the other hand sacrifice is associated with toiling! [1 Samuel 15:22, Deuteronomy 28:1-2].

Husbands and wives, hear me on this, rather agree with your ‘dull’ spouse and receive God’s blessing, than to argue and strife with an intelligent spouse and receive a curse. God works in a peaceful environment. It’s better to lose the argument with God on your side, than to win the argument without God. Losing the argument with God puts the power of God in charge of the situation, thereby bringing to pass what you originally desired. Remember winning the argument has nothing to do with strengthening your marriage, but purely a display of ego.

As you contemplate;

  • What is the difference between a contract and a covenant?
  • How are you showing this one-way, unconditional, covenantal love to your spouse?

This the final part of the Fifth and Final Episode of the Marriage Journals.

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