(Continued from ‘How Do You Know That You Are An Introvert? – Part 1’)
“I want to be alone… with someone else who wants to be alone.” – Dimitri Zaik.
Introverts are easily misunderstood, hence they become more vulnerable than their extrovert counterparts. As children people do not understand why you are quiet and less outgoing ‘unlike your brother/sister.’ You are made to compete with your siblings on an ‘unfair ground.’ With time you got hurt by words and comments. This has made you to be even more discreet. Eventually they just leave you out, ‘who has time to wait for someone to speak.’
You have to move from your position of frustration. Stop trying to be someone you are not. Accept yourself because you are different. Instead discover what is within you that you are good at.
If you are still wondering, here is how you can still know that you are an introvert;
You need a good reason to Interact
Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an introvert, just start talking.
You wish everyone can be real ‘for once’
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
You have few intimate friends
On the contrary, introverts intensively value the few authentic friends they have. They can count their friends on one hand. And there may not be even a group, maybe just two or three, and you love sharing all the secrets with them. Maybe you won’t speak much in front of the others, but boy you are a non-stop blubberer in front of them.
You are a loyal friend
Introverts tend to be very loyal and honest people. Their energy comes from themselves, and not from others, hence it’s easy to be honest and up front with your friends.
You don’t like to go out in public for long
Introverts just don’t like to in public for long. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experience very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They are ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, it’s the recharging afterwards that is absolutely crucial for introverts.
You think a lot
You are always active on the thinking part. Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. You are a good thinker. You think a lot. All the information you receive is processed and packaged properly. You daydream. You crave an authentic and sincere connection with one person at a time. You have a constantly running inner monologue. “Extroverts don’t have the same internal talking as we do,” says Olsen Laney. “Most introverts need to think first and talk later.”
You don’t follow the crowd
Introverts don’t follow crowd. You would prefer to be valued for your novel ways of living. You think for yourselves and because of that, you often challenge the norm. You don’t make most of your decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
You plan ahead
You think about what you are going to say or do, many times before going forward. It’s a given, you can’t accept yourself talking without thinking, though it is more of a quality of intelligent people rather than introverts. But most of the introverts, like to analyse what they are going to say and on what grounds. While extroverts may like to fly by the seat of their pants, that’s not usually what introverts are like. You probably plan things out so that everything runs smoothly and with no issues. This can be anything from a holiday trip to running errands, but having a plan is the key.
You are a writer.
Introverts are often better at communicating in writing than in person, and many are drawn to the solitary, creative profession of writing. Most introverts like “Harry Potter” author J.K. Rowling, say that they feel most creatively charged when they have time to be alone with their thoughts. Many introverts are writers of some kind. They often pursue careers in writing, or prefer to spend their free time writing for fun. Writing is a way for you to really connect to yourself, so it’s a way to recharge.
Most of the times you like to keep your opinions and emotions to yourself.
Being an introvert, you are low on your capacity of social interaction. There is no energy for mandatory social interaction in you. You derive your energy from resources within, without the help of anybody’s company. You keep all your opinions to yourselves, your hard thought, derived conclusions aren’t put forward to other people because most of the people aren’t ready to hear your thoughts and that will create a debate. They will not accept your views, and explaining everything to them will drain all of your energy. Thus you keep them to yourselves unless asked for it, the same with your opinions, thoughts and emotions about things or people.
You are the last to raise your hand when someone asks for something from a group.
As you might remember from your elementary school days, there were some fellow students whose hands shot straight up into the air when the teacher asked a question or needed someone to volunteer. Extroverts tend to be ready and eager to stand out in any academic or social interaction. You are probably more of an introvert than an extrovert if you are content to sit back and let others take center stage. It’s not that introverts know less than others; they just don’t feel a particular need to be in that limelight.
You often wear headphones when you are in a public situation.
Whether it’s making your way through a crowded bus or just navigating a crowded street, if you are an introvert you most likely don’t seek a great deal of contact with others. In decades past, if you wanted to avoid interacting with strangers, you would keep your head down and look straight in front of you. Now you have the added protection of being able to hide behind the protection of your headphones.
Your best thinking occurs when you are by yourself.
You are not opposed to group meetings or discussions, but if you want to come up with a creative solution, you need some time to work the problem out on your own. Having the opportunity to reflect quietly on a problem allows you to make the maximum use of your ability to engage in original thought, and to produce meaningful results.
You listen more than you talk.
Perhaps this is the most intriguing feature of an introvert.
You know what you like
Introverts often know exactly what they want, when they want and how they it. You have thought and processed it, you know. It’s a definite advantage to the trait. While you are certainly not afraid to try new things, you are never holding anyone up with your indecision. You made up your mind about many thing long time ago.
You don’t like interviews
Job interviews aren’t exactly an introvert’s favourite thing. However, introverts can be great at them. Going in, you might be nervous, but once you get to know your interviewer a little better, you are able to really hit it off.
You don’t trust easily
For introverts, it can be difficult finding friends who respect your introverted nature. So when you do start becoming chummy with someone, you might take a little longer than an extrovert when it comes to trusting that person. Often, this means you won’t get hurt as often as an extrovert, and your friends are people you can really count on.
Here is a list of some of the world’s famous introverts; Barack Obama, Warren Buffett, Hillary Clinton, Mark Zuckerberg, Guy Kawasaki, Bill Gates, Abraham Lincoln, Eleanor Roosevelt, Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi and many more. Few Bible introverted characters include Moses, Abraham and Sarah, Joseph, Gideon, Mary and Timothy. So you cannot blame it on your introversion. There are many advantages of being an introvert.
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