It’s Time to Face Your Giants

It’s Time to Face Your Giants

You did not choose to be abused but unfortunately it becomes your responsibility to deal with it. It is painful to know this.

It is unfortunate that the offender who you feel is responsible is not going to come and fix things. You journey towards the life you so desperately desire begins when you look at God and say, ‘Here I am. Help me work through this.’ Allow God to help you with your sexuality.

The world is not perfect, and your parents and family members cannot protect you from all hurts. Actually in most cases they will also be battling with their own wounds. This becomes a stumbling block in extending their love to you. Your church leaders and society leaders cannot fully protect you as individuals. They have thousands to take care of. The justice system does not provide the restorative justice that you want. They simply punish criminals if they are caught and live you with the wound. You the victim are left with the wounds. You are exposed. The walls of security that you so desire are broken. You are left vulnerable to Satan’s elements and at God’s mercy.

Burying your feelings and disliking your sexuality will not help. Instead it builds up a dangerous reservoir of anger and depression that can harm you, your husband or wife and the people you love.

It is your responsibility to choose what you believe, what help to take, what you expose yourself to in books, movies, etc. Do not continue to sit in dirt. Yes, someone put you there but it’s our choice to stay there. It is your responsibility to choose how to deal with your sexuality and your marriage relationship.

You might be saying to me. ‘I am not responsible for putting myself into this situation.’ Yes, I agree. You are not. But in order to get out, who can be responsible? You are best placed to bring recovery to your own life.

Do not live in denial. Your parents or close family members might have denied that it happened (firstly to protect their own pride), but you cannot continue like that anymore. Look at it. It did not help. The pain will not just go away. Accepting the facts and reality gives the opportunity for God’s power to intervene. It empowers your faith to believe for something better.

Yes, it seems unfair that someone messed up your life and it is you who has to clean up things. But the good thing is you are cleaning ‘your’ own house. It is you who will enjoy the benefits of it.

I encourage you to face your past and deal with it. Seek the relevant help. God wants to walk with you on this. Do not allow the giants of your past to rob you of your great dream.

This time, be bold and shake things up! You cannot stay here for ever.

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The Secret to Turning Your Dream into Reality

The Secret to Turning Your into Reality

Everyone has a dream, I mean big dreams. Since you were a kid you have had dreams. You see yourself one day being this or that. With all the super dreams that we have and are constantly working on, how come only a few people live to live their dreams? How come one gets an idea and he can see himself at the top, but after few weeks or months the dream just fades away? At time the dreams become nightmares haunting day and night.

What many people cannot or do not do is to translate the dream into achievable goals. Unless a dream is translated into goals, it remains a fantasy. Unless the goals are specific, achievable, relevant, timely and measurable the dream will turn into a nightmare. If you do not put enough resources (finance, human and time) to complete the dream you will have a half-baked cake.

Goals provide you with a direction to your dream. You will use that as a measure of your achievements. Completing all the goals successfully means you have attained your dream. Goals tell you what you are going to do, when you are going to do it and how you are going to do it. They spell out the steps that must be taken to attain the dream.

And goals are reinforced by values and beliefs. Values guide behavior by creating boundaries for our actions. They set the right environment for the goals and vision. This in turn will keep us on track to our dream. Some of the values include; honesty, integrity, loyalty, dedication, responsibility and accountability.

Whatever dream you have today, make it a vision. Set goals and values that guide your behavior to your dream and hold you accountable.

You may have to analyse yourself and determine your core competencies, the key skills that are essential to fulfilling the dream. What skills do you need to move from where you are to your dream? What is your plan to develop these new skills? Whatever is inadequate; create a learning plan and professional development program for yourself.


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The Message You Were Born to Speak.

The Message You Were Born to Speak.

Seven billion people! Yes! This is the population of the whole world.

Image yourself standing in front of the whole world. And you have been given a chance to speak. What will you speak about? How will you speak?

What will you tell seven billion people to do? What will you tell them not to do? I guess this will be the message you were born to speak.

We all have a message. A message we were born to speak. Yes! You! Most of us are not pros at speaking, but deep down in our hearts we all have a voice wanting to shout out a message. A message we want to go out there. It can be a message of hope or profound wisdom or deep knowledge that you have or even a story.

We express this message by the things we do or choose not to do. This message can be expressed in our work, our words, our actions and our thoughts.

Ask yourself ‘What is the message I was born to speak?’ And when you find it, do not stop speaking.

Dear brothers and sisters, you are not meant to be silent. You have a word, a message you were born to speak, to speak with your voice, to speak with your gifts and talents. You all have treasure in you. Awesome treasures to display to the world. This is the message people read through your life.

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In Search of the Parental Blessing

Parents Blessing

CHILDREN, OBEY your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother–this is the first commandment with a promise–[Exod. 20:12.] That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.

Ephesians 6:1-3 AMP

Our life journeys are unique, and we can all agree that we are not 100% in control of our lives. All of us found ourselves in our families and with the parents that we have. As a baby you cannot have a say about who your parents will be or how you will be born. It still remains a fact that each one of us had one father and one mother. These are the parents we are supposed to honor.

What does it mean to honor your father and mother? It is to be respectful in word, in deeds and in attitude. It is to esteem their position. To honor is to ‘to revere, to respect, to prize, and to value’. Honor is does not mean to agree but it is to give respect not only for merit but also for rank.

God values honoring parents enough to include it in the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:12) and again in the New Testament (Ephesians 6:1-3). Surprisingly ‘honour thy father and thy mother’ is the only command in Scripture that promises the blessing of long life as a reward. The Bible also promises a curse to those who disobey the commandment.

To honor parents who are still alive makes sense, but we are supposed to honor our parents even if they are deceased. Honoring good parents is easy, but honoring bad parents is difficult. The secret is that honoring your parents is not agreeing with them. It is to respect their position. There is a blessing in it, a blessing that you can get and change the direction of your life. Do you possess this blessing? Do you need this blessing?

Parental Figures

Now let’s hold on as we bring another dimension to parenting. What if you did not have your own parent, and you had parental a figure? I believe that God has ordained that parental figure to be your parent. So your parental blessing did not end with your parents. It is still there.

The main challenge is when your parental figure is not a perfect person. However the words of your parental figure can either bring you a blessing or curse. To add on to that your words towards them can either bring you a blessing or curse. Whichever way you will be affected. Why? Because they started on this journey long time ago when you were still a baby. They have been sowing a lot in you. No one can deny it. It is now your turn to reciprocate.

It may sound unfair, but if you look closely in the eyes of God, it is an opportunity. An opportunity for you to be blessed. If you play your part, you will be blessed whether the parental figure is good or bad. Focus on your side of the deal. Maximize your side of the deal, and you will reap accordingly.

You will gain nothing from struggling with your parents. You will always lose because they had a head start on you. They started this before your birth. You are too late.

‘Ceremonial’ Parents

‘Ceremonial’ Parents are parents used on a formal occasion or at a ceremony. Some of them will not take any responsibility to raise the child. Beware of opportunistic ceremonial parents who come out at the last minute. They disappeared from your life until they hear that you are at the university. They come out just in time to collect lobola.  First, they tell you how the person who raised you is bad or has been bad to your real parents (if they are deceased). They arm you with strife with the aim of winning the potential success that you now possess. If you look closely, you will see that they were not there when you needed them most. They never stood with you when you were sick or hungry. They never changed your nappy or shed a tear for you and with you.

So what do we do opportunistic ceremonial parents? Should we get rid of them? The key word here is ceremonial. However they are not the real deal. They did not get dirty raising you. Put them in the right position. Give them a ceremonial position, but do not neglect those who really got dirty sacrificing for you.

How to Get the Parental Blessing

If a person paid the cost of raising you, that person has a parental stake on you. That person deserves to be treated as if he or she is your own parent. You have an opportunity to unlock a blessing in your life.

If there is a person who took you as his or her child, changed your nappies daily, carried you on her back each day, gave you the mother’s (or father’s ) love, gave you the mother (or father) you did not have and gave you the mother’s (or father’s ) blessing, that person has your parental blessing. Mistreating, taking for granted and disrespecting such persons violates the Devine order and shuts doors in your life, stopping the blessing flow.

To realign things, you should reciprocate that love by honoring them as your parents. This is the key to complete your parental blessing circle. Take them as your real parents. If you do this, you will unlock a blessing that has been missing in your life. Find ways to do it. If you touch their heart, you touch your real parents heart. It will release that blessing. Remember this is the only parent you ever experienced.

Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.

Exodus 20:12 AMP

Think carefully about these words. If they resonate with your heart, take the advice

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Are you Playing the Blame Game?


Have you noticed that people everywhere are blaming everything and everyone for whatever is wrong in their lives? They point at their husbands or wife, their employer, the government, the community, the economy, the ruling party, the opposition, the banks etc. ‘Someone’s at fault for this mess I’m in and it’s definitely not me,’ they say.

After a year, two years or ten years, they will still be blaming someone except themselves. They spend all their time and energy blaming. They sit in groups criticizing politicians and public figures, spending five to six hours of their weekend time pointing out how bad things are.

Instead of spending all this time discussing politics and all these problems, why don’t you spend that time talking about how you can improve yourselves? Much better why don’t you spend that time improving yourself? If you cannot find something productive to do with that time, you can spend that time with your wife, you husband or your children having fun.

People who always find someone or something to blame for their failure always end up on the losing side. But responsible people who actively take charge and ownership of their lives and the lives of others become winners. The blame game is a loser’s game. Don’t get into it. Which game are you playing?

Make a bold decision today to take charge and be a solution oriented person. Create a plan to make things around you better. Drive out negativity. Focus on making your dream a living reality. Set your goals and take immediate action. Attend the course if necessary and start progressing now. Otherwise you will find yourself playing the blaming game, a game you will never win.

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The Top Common Personal Finance Myths


A myth is a widely held but false belief or idea. Unfortunately, one of the factors that are preventing many people from becoming financially successful is a false belief about personal finance. In fact, there are common financial myths that can negatively impact your wealth accumulation and prevents you from living your dream. Here are The Top Common Personal Finance Myths that might be holding you back financially;

  1. People with low income cannot save more than people who earns more. Actually some people with low incomes are so disciple such that they can save more than those with huge incomes, who have to maintain their high lifestyles.
  2. Personal financial advice is for people struggling financially. This is not necessarily true, personal financial advice is for anyone who wants to improve his or her financial management, whether one is in deep debt or not.
  3. Hard work makes you rich. ‘If getting up early makes people rich, then milk men and newspaper men would be very rich.’
  4. If you earn less, there is no need to budget. ‘Saving is hard for me because my income is very small.’
  5. One day I will encounter a big financial break that will make me a millionaire.
  6. ‘If I earn more, I will be happier.’ Money is simply an amplifier.
  7. ‘If I get financial aid I will be able to rise myself to riches.’
  8. ‘I will clear all my debt when I get the pay increase.’
  9. You save money by buying cheap or ‘on sale’ items.
  10. Buying ‘property’ is always the best investment.
  11. The higher your income the wealthier you are.
  12. Those with a lot of material wealth are rich.
  13. Two (or more) incomes are better than one.
  14. Signing as surety is no big deal.
  15. Frugality will make you rich.
  16. Rich people are evil.

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What Is Stopping You From Being Great?


Greatness is a choice. Just do it!

Yes, what is it that is stopping you from being great? What is stopping you from being that person you dream of?

The truth is that;

  • Your past cannot stop you from being great.
  • Your spouse cannot stop you from being great.
  • Your friends can not stop you from being great.
  • You personality cannot stop you from being great.
  • Having no money cannot stop you from being great.
  • Your government can not stop you from being great.
  • You race or gender cannot stop you from being great.
  • Being born in poverty can’t stop you from being great.
  • The country you live in can’t stop you from being great.
  • Being too young or too old can’t stop you from being great.
  • Being born with physical disabilities can’t stop you from being great.
  • Not having an adequate education cannot stop you from being great.
  • Being raised by alcoholic or abusive parents can’t stop you from being great.
  • Being an orphan or being raised in foster homes can’t stop you from being great.
  • Because you were told constantly, “you’re no good,” can’t stop you from being great.

Each of us has a vision of what success is but why don’t we then go for it? I think there is only one thing that can prevent you from stepping into your greatness; that is you. It is what you believe. Your belief is seen by your action or lack of action.

You might be saying ‘I don’t care what you think.’ Yes you are right. What I think does not matter. What really matters is ‘what you think!’

“Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them.” ― William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night

Here are some of your common thoughts;

  • This isn’t on my list.
  • I’m too busy right now.
  • I don’t want learn new things.
  • My boss won’t let me do that.
  • I’m afraid of moving too forward
  • I’m not the person you think I am
  • The economy is bad at the moment.
  • I don’t trust other people’s advice.
  • I believe that I don’t have enough time.
  • I don’t have the resources you think I do.
  • I believe that I don’t have enough money.
  • I am scared to see the truth about my selves.
  • I feel guilty if we have a better life than others.
  • It’s not possible. That’s a pipe dream. Don’t bother.
  • I’m not the kind of person that does things like this
  • I don’t feel I deserve a better life. This is all I deserve.
  • I don’t want to open the door to a long-term commitment.
  • It’s too hard. I don’t want to pay the price, do the work and wait that long.
  • I can’t figure out how to do it, or where to start. I have to know how first.

To be honest the conditions for being great have never been right and will never be right. You just have to step in, today!

Now I ask again ‘what is stopping you from being great?’

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Do You Know All My Books?

My Books

If you do not know by now, here is it. I have published three fantastic books. These are small or medium sized easy to read books that are changing people’s lives every day.

The Blessing ScripturesIt’s time to slay your giants! It is time for your victory!

Do you struggle with where to start from when trying to read the Bible? Do you have to fight to maintain a constant devotional life? This book will make it easy because as you read it you will be reading verses that benefits you immediately. The collection of scriptures in this book relates to your personal life. Meditate daily on these scriptures that speak to you directly in The Blessing Scriptures, and experience the difference.

Are you looking for a collection of scriptures that will fire up your life like a rocket? You need a very positive mind to realize that big dream of yours. Few encouraging scriptures a day from The Blessing Scriptures will help you maintain a positive mind throughout the day. They will energize you to get out of bed to fulfill your calling with a purpose.

Are you going through a rough time, facing mountain sized challenges? This collection of scriptures will speak to your situation, turning your trails around and give you a new outlook to your future. Speak these scriptures daily as you pray.

The Blessing Scriptures will change your devotional life! Every scripture in the book has a direct meaning to your everyday personal life. Every scripture is specifically intended to encourage and restore hope and faith to face any daring circumstance. This is the book you ought to start and end your day with!

As you read The Blessing Scriptures you will feel faith rising inside you. This is how this book will help you face and conquer your giants.

The Blessing Scriptures, redefining spirituality!

Putting your marriage relationship where it belongs! This is what this book is about!

Little Tough Tips on MarriageMarriage is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. Every couple can have a fun and enjoyable marriage and they can have this if they are brave enough to pursue the Little Tough Tips on Marriage.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment that is made without an option to turn back. It is like a garden that needs constant watering and great care. If you really love your spouse then, your love is worth fighting for. This little book will revolutionize your approach to your marriage relationship. It will prepare you to navigate traps that can block the smooth flow of marriage, by reorienting your heart and attitude. The following tips covered in this book will help you improve your relationship with your spouse and will move your spouse from being an enemy to being your ally.

The Discipleship SeriesDo you want to enjoy your Christian life? If ‘yes,’ this is the book!

The Discipleship Series is a series of teachings which are a guideline for personal devotion, home group and Bible study groups.

It will urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Weak faith in the teacher cannot stir stronger faith in the student. Use this book as you study the Bible.

And a message that we all should know, and should begin to live is, “Go yee therefore and make disciples of all nations.” Your family, church or community can reject you because of your past, but God loves you regardless of what you can do or cannot do. Get ready to get stirred in a way no book has ever done.

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What Are Your Top Time Wasters?

Wasting time

It is often said that time is money. So wasting time is wasting potential money. Over 350 responses on Quora responded to the question ‘What is truly a waste of your personal time?’ The answers were very interesting.

Here are the top 18 things that people waste their time on;

  1. Living In Past And Regretting

This is thinking too much about the past and about things that are beyond your control. If you often spend time reflecting on mistakes you have made, things you wish you had/hadn’t said, and wondering how differently things would’ve turned out if you had taken a different course of action. Recollecting past deeds and how they are going to affect you in your coming days, although you can’t change it. This can be blaming yourself for the loss of a loved one. It’s not healthy at all, and it prevents you from living in the present, perpetuating a vicious cycle of not appreciating what you have and then wishing you had done better. Allowing the past to linger is waste of time. The past has had its presence, now it’s gone. Spending time reliving the past takes part of your present you and divides you. Although, reliving good memories will release a pleasant feeling in you, allowing that part of you to relive toxic memories will poison you exponentially with the time factor.

  1. Social Media

There are many social media apps these days, Facebook, WhatsApp, Snapchat, Messenger and other similar chatting apps. Many people keep surfing on the internet without a clear objective, just to pass time. Some spend a lot of time chatting with virtual friends, whom they don’t know and there is not possibility of ever meeting him/her in future. Some keep changing profile picture and status countlessly on social networking sites.

  1. Comparing Your Life With Others

Going through posts of others on Facebook and then thinking and mourning that your life is such a waste while it’s not at all true. This can be caring about what others might be thinking about you. Spending your time to impress others, thinking what others think about you is a waste of time. You do not have to prove how macho or strong or athletic or handsome or pretty you are.

  1. Worrying About The Present And Future

You can’t keep thinking and stressing about the future. It truly is amazing how much time can be wasted over something so uncertain or living in fear of something and not trying to overcome it. 

  1. Watching TV

Watching TV all day seems like a waste of time when you could be using your time to do something better like going out for a walk or spending time with friends or family. Perhaps try investing that time in achieving your dream.

  1. Worrying

“Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” Some people are worriers. They worry about everything and everyone in the name of being responsible. They carry other people’s burdens as if they are paid for it.

  1. Procrastination

Not doing what you want to do. They say procrastination is the language of the poor. It does not get things done and should be your number one enemy. Silently it takes your dream away from you.

  1. Gossiping

Gossiping seems to feed the emotions but does not get anything does. You cannot advance your life by gossiping. It simply discussing about people rather than ideas and engaging into small talks. Hating someone and spending time to think evil about him/her, conspire against him/her (which in most cases is probably is not going to be enacted) and back biting. Gossiping about other people and getting stressed over stupid things is indeed a waste of time.

  1. Doing Something You Hate

It was noticed that staying in a job you hate and working on a dead end job was the ninth waste of time. Why do you do a job you don’t like? Perhaps you have no choice but remember time is moving. If a job you like and stay on it. Things will not happen on their own.

  1. Complaining Excessively

While expressing displeasure over something may sometimes be good to let things out of your system, complaining incessantly without taking any action or coming up with ways to improve the situation often yields nothing but more frustration. Are you an epic complainer? Be careful otherwise you will complain yourself into poverty.

Other Serious Time Wasters

  • Addictive behaviours; Watching porn, smoking and drinking to excess.
  • Constant checking your inbox throughout the day for new emails. Scrolling through the endless Facebook feed hoping to find something interesting.
  • People pleaser by letting other views affecting you. Trying to please people to their liking
  • Spending time with the wrong people or people who bring you down, Just to look cool or be popular.
  • Pining for an ex-lover. Waiting for an ex to come back to you. Get over it and move on.
  • Traffic Jams takes a lot of our time. In some countries you can easily spend at least two hours daily in the traffic jams
  • Video game; hooked up to your gaming machine when there is a lot to play outside.
  • Engaging in endless political discussions and arguments.

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